Looking for love

#relationships

February 19, 2022

My grandmother once told me a story about why relationships are sometimes complicated. She said to me, once upon a time, people were whole beings. Then our Creator decided to divide us into two parts and scattered us all over the world. In that way, we each had to search for our other half. We are like puzzle pieces. We try to find the right piece, sometimes we put the wrong pieces together in the wrong place and we get the picture wrong and we have to undo the puzzle. Eventually, if we are patient, and observe, look and learn, we are blessed and we find the right piece. When we sit back and look at the picture - the pieces fit together beautifully.

Relationships have changed and evolved over the years. We have all these wonderful digital options to meet people and yet people are still lonely. People are finding it complicated to meet a person of interest to have a relationship with.

Some people use online dating apps and some people think that Facebook is a dating app. Some people still try to get a hook up through friends, family and work colleagues. People meet each other every where...and yet so many people are still lonely or in dysfunctional relationships.

There are different types of situations that unfold with digital platforms. Some people just like flirting on-line with no intention of creating any in-person contact. Some people go beyond the digital contact to make in-person contact. One has to always proceed with caution with these situations. There are people who scam others online. There are people who create fake profiles. There are people who are looking to manipulate the lonely (this is a different article).

Let us be real - even though we say 'don't judge a book by it's cover', mutual attraction is based on appearances. Unless you see the person frequently, most people are starting to get to know each other via social media. Society has evolved over the past few years. The dating world has changed. People are leaving unhappy situations. People are wanting to have passion, commitment and companionship. People are searching for the perfect fit. First things first, take out your journals and start looking at who you are and what it is that you bring to the table. You have value. People have pasts. People make mistakes. People learn. People evolve. Don't be afraid of wanting someone who fits you. You don't have to go fishing and take whatever hooks onto your bait. Decide, who do you want in your life? What characteristics are you looking for? What do you have to offer? Remember to always be true to what are your deal breakers and do not compromise.

The next few articles will be on relationships, my observations from conversations with masculine and feminine energy people - both young and not so young. Hopefully these series of articles can answer some of your questions.

Love to you,

Meenakshi